In our travels and in our understanding of the world, I have come to the realization that I am alone in my understanding of the world.
I think I’ve tried to apply that, to saying that I am alone in the world, in general.
The closest I could ever hope to being truly connected, and not being alone, would be with a best friend… someone that would see the world (for whatever reason) in the same way that I do.
And I see that with Carrie.
I see with Carrie that we have the same or at least a similar understanding.
We work to gain a greater perspective and grow our understanding. We seek to change and grow and become.
But there are so many people who don’t change.
They won’t do the work, even if it’s easy, to grow their understanding of how the world works.
They won’t take the steps to make things better.
They say they want something different, but unknowns are scary, and so they choose for things to just stay the same.
They want to keep things as they are – status quo.
We have definitely grown our understanding of the world. That changes us, and that separates us from other people.
My understanding of how the world works – the more I grow it, the more it separates me from other people – in my understanding.
That’s just the way it is.
(No one can really work to grow their understanding of the world in the same way that I do, unless they go through all the same experiences that I do.)
It is highly unlikely that you’re going to have a truly common understanding with people in the world other than your spouse or a really really good friend. And even then it’s very difficult to achieve, maintain, and grow.
So you’re alone in your understanding of the world, and that’s a fact.
There’s nothing to be done about that… it’s a thing to accept.
The biggest mistake though is to apply that to say
- No one understands me at all,
- No one gives a rip about me or what I know.
- No one gives a …
I think a lot of people end up in that place, but those statements just aren’t true.
You may be alone in your understanding of how the world works, how people work, and people communicate.
But you can connect (and be connected to), if you’re open to that connection coming to you through emotion.
Connecting with people on a logical level (same understanding of the world) is really difficult.
But people can care for you deeply, even if they have a much different understanding of the world than you.
Someone can care about you, can care about what you know, can care about what you’re going through, and can care about all of this, without actually knowing the “what” of your situation for themselves.
I say that knowing that I will follow up this post with a caveat (in another post), but I’m curious…
For you reading this post – Do you think that people can care about you – truly care – if they’re not willing to walk the walk (even mentally) that you’ve walked and are walking?